before getting to know me, my first thought would be Wow! the point is about understanding that who someone once was isnt always who they are now. To people who are in love with someone that has had sex with If she communicates she wants or needs something different than what you want, thats okay. In my eyes it matters is someone has had a decent approach to love and sex. Marriage is a serious commitment intended to last a lifetime. I do not think it is worth walking away from a woman you genuinely connect with, but again that is my opinion. Its not about being flawless and perfect. Heres me who was afraid to even chat with a woman online suddenly decides to get on a plane for 13hours and go meet her, we spent an amazing month together, best time of my life at the end of it for some reason I asked her, how many guys you been with her response was I lost cou- I mean I cant remember maybe 30. If you're honest more than likely you wouldn't. A) Two long-term sex partners, had sex a total of 1000 times. Beauty fades, parts get old. The commandment is that we shall not fornicate .male or female. Im not the same person now, and I know what I did is wrong, so obviously, there should be no consequences for my past behavior. They just never found out. What happens to the guy that took a chance on her got his emotions wrapped up in her only to have them stomped on? It seems that its not the case. Report. I believe, Yeah but we need to respect our bodies as men too. The number of sexual partners a woman has had does not determine what type of woman she is. to be selective in whom they chose for a mate. I on the other hand have done all those what ifs so they are no longer appealing to me anymore. Im surprised by the comments Ive seen so far! Men should be held to the same standard as women when it comes down to numbers of sexual partners and until society enforces that men will continue to mess around because its ok for men because their held to a lower standard than women. And if he did, I would not be honest. Being forced to settle for a woman who has been ridden like the town bike, and shared her body with dozens, if not hundreds of men is very weak, and very low-standard. Any person with an abnormally high or indiscriminate number of partners either values sex too micah (must have it, with whoevers around) or too little (sharing one of lifes most intimate moments with any ol body). Stephen are u being real? Men just want Women to stay loose, so they can keep getting laid daily! Makes not a whit of difference to me. Youtube. She says she knew what she was doing but to me it seems like she was being used, and that hurts. Well a lot of us men would have been very happy just meeting a woman that could love us for who we are just like they did years ago since money was never an issue, and many women Accepted their men back then since many marriages did last very long like our Parents and Grandparents did. They are also more secure with the idea that if one relationship ends they can easily find another. I completely understand where you are coming from Kabdog but I have to respectfully disagree. Besides if you find out she sleeps with the types of guys who sleep around, thats alarming. Most men dont want to marry a person who is in effect a man with a vagina. In the words of Dr Dre. STDs are always a risk, but that usually comes up pretty early, and even if there is an STD involved if you really want to bang anyway, that's what condoms are for. let the common sense and reality flow into youThen get back to me, you enlightened woman you. Men lie, because it increases theirs. Men like to know what theyre investing in is rare. Unless you are interested in being swingers, your best bet would be to only get involved with someone who has a solid sense of morality. Personally, I think that men and women should strive to have a lower number of sexual partners but I dont think that women should try to act like men in the thinking that having numerous partners is a good thing. She thought she could convince me to change my mind, but the longer we dated, the more I became convinced that, regardless of how well we connected, I could never see her as a wife or the mother of my childrendue to her sluttiness and the fact she allowed herself to be used as a piece of sexual meat. experience with this subject: I have been single for about a year twice in my Very true, plenty of sluts attempt to hide their sluttiness through subterfuge, yet they inevitably give off tells. Also, So a man can use that as a measuring stick all he wants, but the reality is he may forever be getting false data. They are always controlled and can never be trusted at all because they will get around and bang lots of men. Amen brother. This is only my input on the subject as I have been tackling this topic for weeks now and I am open to everybody's opinion. Individuals must and should always attend to their home garden and not others. One can only act so long before the truth comes out. Blanksie_11 you make excellent points and I do not disagree with you. and it goes on. It matter amd why I dont see my damn comment I posted on here about thisarticle? Regardless of what it was, it shouldnt matter. Because they are unable to control their own desires, delayed gratification is a component of intelligence and success. Ive been with one man-my ex-husband. I falled in love with a woman that had sex with around 700 partners before me. Me personally I know everyone does things they are not proud of but if i meet someone that has the potential to be the one why not at least get to know them and consider giving them a chance no one on this earth is flawless and perfect but its up to us to have a clear mind and not let the things mess up something that could be special. Those who feel the need to take this approach typically have some deeper issues they are not properly addressing. That didnt bother me, because I dont really care. Speaking of lazy, I have looked over the study which you were apparently too lazy to just hyperlink to yourself after being asked to twice https://www.jstor.org/discover/10.2307/3600089?uid=3739448&uid=2&uid=3737720&uid=4&sid=21102211994521 and the man is ESTIMATING his own word that the chances of marital dissolution go up for any woman who was not a virgin prior to marrying or cohabitating with her partner. to see just how much power in these relationships and families that women do Doesnt make it right, but remember, thats the flip side of a double standard. Now should people be out there hoin it, no but look at our oversexed society; chances are whoever you get may have some miles! I dont want to hate on the people that made mistakes, because we can always change, but you are right on point. The only problem with yr case is you did what you did. First of all, we human beings need to start doing fuller and more honest self examinations before we point at others. There is so much more to point too that have a greater impact on a failing marriage. Thats deepmakes me feel foolish for rejecting some females because of my insecurity about their sexual past. Not everyone is like me but some people are and you never know who you will fall in love with in the future. But hey, it is what it is. The summary in red pill logic is a girl who has slept around a lot will have a lot of emotional issues and will end up cheating on you. And women can go a long way in updating the image of women in society. A promiscuous past can definitely lead to issues in the present, but that is not always the case. You just got the best husband around! You say its not worth walking away from a woman you genuinely connect with. Respect yourself ladies, and men will respect you. Women should NOT be judged different from Men, however it does matter more with a Woman then a Man, FACT. Regardless what women think or how women seal most men would never accept or be comfortable with their mate havent slept with 30/100,000,000 in her lifetime. Shes going to be somebodys wife or girlfriend, because he values her more than his immature philosophy. In other words quit pointing fingers at others when you know full-well that you are just as much a sinner! I canhonestlysay that if it wasnt for my past i would not have learned anything. Yes, they will try to have their cake and eat it too, once they realize the error of their ways, but by then, its too late. To those guys dating a girl that has been around you know your boys are all laughing at you behind your back. It is much easier for a woman to sleep with a random man than vice versa. You are referencing a single paper? It just isnt right. It matters. So the inability to stay connected many times stems from the fact that their never was a connection to begin with. If she is a changed woman then she should present who she is and keep who she was to her damn self because IT DOES AND WILL ALWAYS MATTER when exposed. And some women need to go through experiences to become the best women they could be. Evaluate that person for who they are now, not who they were previously. You don't have to carry that baggage. So try again to express your desire to know the truth no matter how tough of a pill it is to swallow. My wife of 25 years has been with several partners and had sex including loosing her virginity. If the guy hasn't had that many partners, then it might be an issue. Furthermore for both sex d rare and tear is evident. You can probably answer that. someone to come along and love you for who you are? would want a man who thinks this way, otherwise, she is going to just end with Dont get me wrong, I understand that with higher numbers there is a higher chance of certain issues coming in to play that most men will not want to deal with. Im selfish as well, because I sleep around a lot. With that said, dont expect all these women to reveal this information. I could go on forever but Ill stop here. Obviously, the sexual freedom we And, yes, you should know. The emotional component I can build well in a live- in arrangement, before we finally settle down. And our son, how would he view women? The divorce rate in the US has been declining since 1982 along with the marriage rate, and cohabitation is a big reason for it. All in all I think monogamy is a cruel joke. These views are unrealistiic. Maybe you think yes, but I say no, and I say that the actual number should not be the true focus in evaluating a potential partner. Womens happiness within committed relationships also goes down as her partner count increases. One wished the best for me. Some people are stricter Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. As ryaninfamous pointed out, women have the power to practically have sex with any man they want, whenever they want. Likewise, promiscuity is also very common in women with trauma in their past (e.g., rape, molestation, physical and emotional abuse, etc.). Official Oxford 2023 Postgraduate Applicants Thread, TSR Community Awards 2022: Most Helpful Thread of the Year- VOTING NOW OPEN, The Official Love Island Thread Winter 2023, Official LSE Postgraduate Applicants 2023 Thread, Law Applicants 2023 entry - discussion thread, Sutton Trust US Programme Cohort 12 (2023) Applicants Thread. In my line of work I have seen that more times than not there is something deeper going on that has led to that woman taking that route. lol Its cool man, I can see where somebody could view it as that. Someone to come along and love you for who they are also secure. Ends they can keep getting laid daily point is about understanding that who once. 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